Priority number one

Priority. It seems to be a word that is easier to write and harder to do for oneself.

I mean if you do not start take care of yourself physically emotionally and mentally. Then you cannot expect other people to give you any importance,simply because you have not given yourself any importance.

For me that one thing is exercise. Weather at the gym or even a one hour walk. I find putting on my headphones and tuning onto my favourite station or listening to my favourite hindi songs not only give me the motivation to go to the gym but it also helps me just re-energize myself for the rest of my day. Or if I have had a bad day it seems to be a form of therapy to get through it. Plus it never hurts to work on your butt !

I think more than men women find it really hard to prioritise themselves. I have seen it all around me . Through all the duties and chores we might have to do throughout our lives, be it my mother,my sister or even my closest friend, they all at one point or another seem to just forget to look after themselves. Which is how I learnt not to do that to myself. To make sure I do not feel bad or guilty for prioritizing myself above anyone and everyone.

This thought that being selfish has a connotation that is a negative thing, But why is being selfish seen as a bad thing first of all?  When words like self care ,self love and self belief are all positive life affirming words and have positive connotations. I think that selfish should be seen that way as well and in fact it has been a goal in my life to rebrand the word selfish into a positive one. Seeing as so much of yourself as individuals we give to others are we as individuals not warranted a little time to ourselves on a daily basis?  To care of well you! Of course you are warranted. One should not feel like they need to ask permission to be a little selfish it should be a right, to make sure you look after yourself.

Because once you are struggling mentally it effects you physically or emotionally too, making it a domino effect. So from a very young age I have vowed to not do that too myself. I made sure to spend time by myself in my room,reading a good book, or watching  my favourite show on my laptop or writing . Just something to make sure that I am doing something for myself. No matter how big or small.

No one really taught me this, I picked it up for myself. I seem to have come from a cultural where we are oh so reliant on the teaching of other people yet self learning is virtually non existent. As if my life is not mine is someone else does not lead it it at every given moment.

When I was very young I remember I had learnt I think a new swear word and my mom had said , “ who has taught you this word because it wasn’t us”. I had realized at that very moment that I didn’t really need to be so reliant on the learning of my parents. Since then I have taken it upon myself to make sure I learn from everyone around me regardless of anyone's age.

I think there's a thing about teaching as advice in my community, that it is only those that are older that have the right to give it. That those that are older are the ones that have somehow the right to teach your their life lessons. From my experience I think this is a complete myth .

I have come to noticed that as we get older we tend to be surrounded by people who are just like us, and thus as time goes on we all tend to have similar life experiences and life goals. Though there is a great bond with all of that we must be open to making new friends all through our lives, so that we do not become so closed to new experiences life may have to offer.

This is why I have friends of all ages this is so that I can experience life lessons from all ages,not just those that are older then me but also younger than me. Some of the best advice I have been given weren’t from those that are the same age as me or older then me,but guys and gals who are definitely younger than me.

So no matter how hard it is, no matter how many things you have got going in a day, the million things you have gotta do. You have to in a regular basis take time to do something for yourself. Even it is just reading a good book for a hour or just going for a walk.